The PatientIf you follow this blag, you’ll already know my Dad, Walter Maheux, is in the hospital right now. He’s got a large tumor in one lung, and spots in his lungs, liver, lymph nodes and brain. He also had pneumonia, but I think that’s almost over.

Let me be frank: this is it. This is his swan song. I’m not sure he can recover from this.

But I have hope. And there are blessings. And in many ways my brother (Bill), mother (Dottie), and I feel like we’re lucky. Because now I think we can have some good time with my Dad. What they call quality time.

My blessings, let me show you them:

  • It is a blessing that, when my father was driving erratically with my mother and dogs in the truck, no one was hurt. Not even the truck.
  • It is a blessing that my mother convinced my father to stop driving and go to the doctors to find out what was happening.
  • It is a blessing that the physician’s assistant ordered an x-ray for my father.
  • It is a blessing that the doctor called my Mom the next day and asked them to go into the doctor’s office.
  • It is a blessing that my mother saw my father cough up and vomit blood.
  • It is a blessing that my father coughed up and vomited blood at the doctor’s office and they sent him directly (do not pass go) to the emergency room.
  • It is a blessing that my brother and I both work at places that let us leave work immediately so we could meet our parents at the hospital.
  • It is a blessing too that our places of work also gave us both time away to spend supporting my Mom and Dad as well as to help come to grips with what was happening.
  • It is a blessing that I have a husband (Edmund) who is ready with hugs, jokes and love whenever I need it.
  • It is a blessing that Edmund doesn’t mind letting the dogs out so we can stay at the hospital.
  • It is a blessing that we all have wicked senses of humor and try to find something to laugh about at every opportunity.
  • It is a blessing that once we got the word out about Dad’s illness, he had visits from friends and relatives right away with more coming.
  • It is a blessing that the staff at the Maine Medical Center is caring for us all with compassion, tact and a bit of humor.
  • It is a blessing that we have a tool like Facebook that we can use to keep our extended families informed about Dad’s progress and prognoses.

And the biggest blessing is that my father looks and acts like he is feeling the best he has in months. This gives me the most hope of all.


  1. Words fail me, so I send love and light to you and your family. I know we don’t know each other well but if there is anything I can do for you, please do not hesitate to ask. As you know I have been down this road you are on and I wish I had had the clarity you have in this post.

  2. I don’t even know you darlin’ but my heart is with you . I hold your Father in the light and hope for peace for you and your whole family.

  3. It is a blessing that you shared your dad with me for my first Father’s Day celebration in 15 years last summer. Lots of love to all of you.

  4. Thanks, Trisha. Love you.

  5. Thank you, Colette.

  6. Thank you, Shay. I will ask. And I wonder, is it clarity or is it denial ;).

    It’s easy now because I see him feeling better than he has been feeling. Scared about what’s next. Deciding to take it one day at a time.

  7. Beautiful, just beautiful

  8. Debbie Theriault-Tibbetts says:

    Walter and Dottie are themselves a blessing and true example of what love, life and family should be. I envision the situation daily, done “Maheux-Style” and pray for the best !

  9. As a child i remember them fondly . They have been good friends . I enjoyed the time i got to spend with them and herb and tina when tina’s dad passed. I am thankful i got to know them both and the two of you kids. I am blessed bye seeing the love they share. I will pray for the best. Inez strom stock

  10. It is a blessing that after all these years I got to see you all, by taking a road trip with my mother and my two daughters, in which we were fortunate for the vacancy at the Maheux Bed n Breakfast.

    It is a blessing for my children to have met your father for the first time…a blessing for them and all of us to be touched by a kind gentle spirited ‘man’…absolutely refreshing!

    It is a blessing that you all are a close knit loving family who can support one another with your love and humour especially in times like these.

    It is a blessing that Lanna introduced me and my girls to “Lollipop” by Mika (the most ridiculous song that u can’t help but smile, tap your toes OR get OUT of your head all day!!! *grin) that we crank up and listen to at times like these.

    Hugs and love to each of you!

    Steph 🙂

  11. Beth Soper says:

    Beautifully said Lanna. You Dad is blessed to have so many people who care about him.

  12. Marshall A Lawler Civ says:

    I am marshall lawler my father was geroge lawler, when i was in high school i worked with your dad on aunt Alicees place in parkman, i moved away after high school, come home in the summer , i see your dad every once a while, i went up to camp two years ago. I will be praying for your dad, love allen

  13. Dot Mithee says:

    This is beautiful. I cried all the way through it. I want to add that it is a blessing that we have been able to share in the love and laughter. So glad to hear that Walter looks and acts like he is feeling the best he has in months. Love you and thinking of all you.

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